Fear of Failure

As I was tucking my 6-year-old daughter, Zoe into bed last night, she told me how she was afraid to be alone in her room without her older sister present.  This gave me the opportunity to share with her how fear works and can control you if you let it.  I explained to her that I have been afraid of not doing a good enough job and how I wanted to do the best job I could at taking care of her.  I am afraid of failure.  To deal with fear, I use it to put myself to action.  I have organized my calendar in both print and in excel format so that my husband and I both have access to it.  I am working on a weekly schedule so I can know if I have overbooked myself or can add new tasks.  Zoe is my organizer so I knew that I was speaking the same language as her.  I told her that fear is not a bad thing.  For example, it keeps us safe so we do not walk off a cliff and it is our job to use fear for good.  We can use it to drive us to do things that we need encouragement doing.  I told her that she can practice feeling safe when only her little sister is sleeping in the room.  If anything happens, she can just yell for me and I will be there.  Also, I told her that God is always there for her and she can pray to ask Him for help.  I sang a song for her that I learned in Kid’s Church long ago.  It is called “Fear Not” and is set to heavy metal type music.  She laughed at how funny I looked singing a church song while head banging and playing my air guitar.  She seemed to feel a little bit better and was fast asleep shortly after our conversation.  I needed to have that talk with her for me too.  Isn’t it funny that we will have a pep talk with someone and we need that same talk ourselves?  I have been letting fear creep up on me and tell me statements like: “You are no good at this job”, “You are not going to make it” and “You should just go back to work and leave childcare to the professionals.”  Then, I am reminded of a scripture passage in the Bible, Isaiah 41:10-11 (NIV) that refers to the one called into God’s service: “10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.  11 All who rage against you will surely be ashamed and disgraced; those who oppose you will be as nothing and perish.” God takes care of those doing His service.  Be encouraged to kick fear in the butt if needed and use fear to drive you to do good things!

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